Ultimate Singles Guide

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Updated: June 10, 2009

Finding someone who's available and likeable can be a challenge, especially in the cut-throat New York City dating scene. That's why we've sought out the best spots to snag your ideal type--from boozy party bars packed with fun-loving flirts to the trendiest restaurants filled with well-to-do socialites. So whether you're looking for a one-time date or a lifelong mate, we've got something for every single New Yorker.

On this page:For 30-Somethings, For Low-key Types, For Artsy Types and Hipsters, For Party Types, For Social Climbers and Gold-Diggers, For Gays and Lesbians.

For 30-Somethings

  1. 1 3.5 Star Rating: Average Cesca
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    164 W 75th St, New York, NY 10023 (map)

    Local professionals pack the sepia-toned, chestnut-banqueted dining rooms at this Upper West Side haunt, which also boasts a buzzing bar scene that makes it prime for mingling.

  2. 2 4 Star Rating: Recommended Prohibition
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    503 Columbus Ave, New York, NY 10024 (map)

    This Upper West Side bar encompasses the 1920s speakeasy style without all the pretentious secrecy. Exposed brick walls, wooden booths and an attentive wait staff give the spacious saloon an air of tastefulness, in contrast to the many undergrad bars that line Amsterdam Avenue.

  3. 3 4.5 Star Rating: Recommended Blue Ribbon Brasserie
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    97 Sullivan St, New York, NY 10012 (map)

    Although this Soho mainstay doesn't take reservations for small parties, the haute comfort food (think rack of lamb and fried chicken) is worth the wait. And since it's open daily 'til 4am, the possibilities are endless.

  4. 4 4.5 Star Rating: Recommended Gramercy Tavern
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    42 E 20th St, New York, NY 10003 (map)

    Insiders know that the seats at the bar are the best in the house, which makes Gramercy Tavern well-suited to meeting and mingling with like-minded food lovers.

  5. 5 3 Star Rating: Average Hudson Cafeteria
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    356 W 58th St, New York, NY 10019 (map)

    This midtown restaurant inside the Hudson Hotel is grand, but the menu highlights the dependable goodness of simple comfort food (the house specialty is baked macaroni and cheese). Likewise, the patrons tend to be refined but down to earth.

  6. 6 4 Star Rating: Recommended Pastis
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    9 9th Ave, New York, NY 10014 (map)

    This Meatpacking District mainstay is more than a French bistro. True to the Keith McNally formula, it's a high-energy (and high-priced) hot spot, crackling with well-to-do New Yorkers of a respectable age.

For Low-key Types

  1. 7 4 Star Rating: Recommended Loreley Restaurant
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    7 Rivington St, New York, NY 10002 (map)

    Where better to seek your match than a Bavarian brewhouse where the good-natured air is contagious? And if it turns out not to be your lucky night, Loreley's tasty wiener schnitzel is a more than adequate substitute for a date.

  2. 8 4 Star Rating: Recommended Spring Lounge
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    48 Spring St, New York, NY 10012 (map)

    This Soho bar hosts a lively crowd of people more interested in boozing than, well, anything else. Except flirting--they're big on that too.

  3. 9 5 Star Rating: Highly Recommended East River
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    97 S 6th St, Brooklyn, NY 11211 (map)

    This friendly Williamsburg dive always draws a crowd of thirsty, fun-loving locals and low-maintenance Manhattanites. In warmer weather, the lively back patio--which is decked out with garden furniture, canopies and free-for-all grills--is the perfect place to connect with a hot hipster. Bum a smoke or offer to share your barbecue (it's BYO meat).

  4. 10 4 Star Rating: Recommended Angels & Kings
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    500 E 11th St, New York, NY 10009 (map)

    This East Village hangout (owned by rocker Pete Wentz) is decked out in gothic rock-and-roll decor, with black leather booths, wooden thrones and chandeliers. A fun-loving crowd of inebriated singles are usually on the prowl at all times.

  5. 11 4 Star Rating: Recommended Swift
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    34 E 4TH St, New York, NY 10003 (map)

    A downtown Irish pub where the pickup scene gets going about three Guinnesses in. And if you're not tough enough for a pint, no sweat: The friendly bartenders are known for their generous pours.

  6. 12 5 Star Rating: Highly Recommended Commonwealth
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    497 Fifth Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11215 (map)

    Park Slope isn't just for stroller moms and their husbands. Case in point: Commonwealth, where the jukebox is a way to start a conversation and the personals wall (where guests can post love notes) is a way to keep it going.

  7. 13 4 Star Rating: Recommended Village Vanguard
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    178 7th Ave S, New York, NY 10014 (map)

    Skip the obvious singles scenes and check out this intimate subterranean jazz club, open since 1935. You just might meet your soul mate.

For Artsy Types and Hipsters

  1. 14 5 Star Rating: Highly Recommended THE SKINnY
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    174 Orchard Street, New York, NY 10002 (map)

    Cheap drinks and local art lure locals to this slender, dimly lit Lower East Side bar. Weekends usually draw crowds so large and boisterous that bartenders resort to serving cocktails in plastic cups. And if that's not an indication of a barÂ’s hookup potential, nothing is.

  2. 15 4 Star Rating: Recommended Cake Shop
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    152 Ludlow St, New York, NY 10002 (map)

    Armed with a fully stocked bar, coffee, vinyl, live music and cupcakes, this multipurpose venue has a special place in the hearts of Lower East Side partyers.

  3. 16 3.5 Star Rating: Average Lit
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    93 Second Ave., New York, NY 10003 (map)

    One part H.R. Geiger-esque gallery, one part understated DJ bar and one part just plain cool, this East Village bar draws an alt-glam crowd of B-side artists, actors and indie filmsters--and they're all dying to, um, "work" together.

  4. 17 3.5 Star Rating: Average Kgb Bar Inc
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    85 E 4th St, New York, NY 10003 (map)

    Decorated with period photographs and Marxist aphorisms, this East Village spot is where writers unite under the influence of martinis and words. Frequent free readings by up-and-coming novelists and poets make it easy for the boho literati to get cozy.

  5. 18 4.5 Star Rating: Recommended GalleryBar
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    120 Orchard St, New York, NY 10002 (map)

    This Lower East Side lounge is an art gallery by day and a full-scale party bar by night, making it a great place to meet singles with an interest in both.

  6. 19 4.5 Star Rating: Recommended Brooklyn Social
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    335 Smith St, Brooklyn, NY 11231 (map)

    This dark Carroll Gardens watering hole once housed a real Italian social club. But these days, anyone can grab a bar stool, shoot pool, smoke cigarettes on the back porch and soak in the nostalgic decor, all while sipping a classic cocktail and getting to know the neighbors.

  7. 20 3.5 Star Rating: Average Art Bar
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    52 8th Ave, New York, NY 10014 (map)

    Thrift-store sofas arranged in get-to-know-you clusters, a wood-burning fireplace and muted crystal chandeliers factor into the warm, homespun vibe at this West Village dive.

For Party Types

  1. 21 3.5 Star Rating: Average APT
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    419 W 13th St, New York, NY 10014 (map)

    Savvy clubbers treat this chic MePa District nightspot like their own living room--and where better to get close to a new friend than on a plush couch or bed, with a full bar at your disposal?

  2. 22 4 Star Rating: Recommended Plan B
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    339 E 10th St, New York, NY 10009 (map)

    A young crowd gets cozy at this mainstream East Village boozin' spot, where the girls are pretty and the guys grow more attractive with every drink.

  3. 23 4.5 Star Rating: Recommended Forum
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    127 4th Ave, New York, NY 10003 (map)

    This spacious Union Square bar caters to under- and post-graduates looking to party on any given night of the week. It's loud and boozy, and thus a great place to meet your next hookup (though maybe not your future mate).

  4. 24 3 Star Rating: Average Pianos NYC
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    158 Ludlow St, New York, NY 10002 (map)

    Check out the amateur bands and their cute fans at this Ludlow Street staple, which is perpetually packed with hip guys and girls in distressed designer jeans and deliberately asymmetrical haircuts, pontificating on the genius of their indie rock heroes.

  5. 25 2.5 Star Rating: Below Average B Bar and Grill
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    40 E 4th St, New York, NY 10003 (map)

    An oldie but a goodie, this sprawling East Village restaurant and bar lures well-dressed, relatively well-behaved patrons with three bustling bars and a massive all-weather patio.

  6. 26 1 Star Rating: Poor Southside
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    1 Cleveland Pl, New York, NY 10012 (map)

    The Martignetti brothers' dark, debaucherous Nolita lair is the preferred late-night hangout of the preppy-chic set. If you leave this place alone, you're doing something wrong.

  7. 27 3.5 Star Rating: Average Sway Lounge Llc
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    305 Spring St, New York, NY 10013 (map)

    Though the door policy may be semi-harsh depending on the night, inside this Soho lounge you'll find a full-fledged party raging well into the wee hours. But proceed with caution: Sway is precisely the kind of place that leads to bad decisions and embarrassing anecdotes.

For Social Climbers and Gold-Diggers

  1. 28 3 Star Rating: Average Stone Rose
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    10 Columbus Cir, New York, NY 10019 (map)

    This low-lit lounge at the Time Warner Center is the perfect place to scope out sugar mamas and daddies. While the average Joe might be struck by the bar's magnificent Central Park views, most of the patrons are quite accustomed to it, since their posh Manhattan apartments boast similar views.

  2. 29 4 Star Rating: Recommended Kittichai
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    60 Thompson St, New York, NY 10012 (map)

    At the fancy bar at the hotel 60 Thompson, well-heeled Manhattan insiders strut their stuff before the hotel's well-to-do guests.

  3. 30 3 Star Rating: Average GoldBar
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    389 Broome St, New York, NY null (map)

    Everything is gold at this Nolita lounge--from the tables (which are designed to look like stacks of oversized Cartier bracelets) to the curtains to the skulls that line the walls. And where there's decadence and liquor, you can bet there are also rich single folks.

  4. 31 3 Star Rating: Average The Rose Bar
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    2 Lexington Ave, New York, NY 10010 (map)

    Even hotel guests are not guaranteed admission to the swanky bar at the Gramercy Park Hotel, but it's that very exclusivity that draws the A-list set. Arranged like an 18th-century French salon, it's a go-to for wealthy New Yorkers and important out-of-towners--and those who want to meet them.

  5. 32 4.5 Star Rating: Recommended Soho House
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    29-35 Ninth Ave, New York, NY 10014 (map)

    This members-only Meatpacking District hot spot boasts a bar, restaurant and a drawing room where ladies and gents dressed to the nines can find one another. But it's the much-hyped rooftop pool that may be the most enticing area for singles; after all, nothing says "hit on me" like a skimpy bikini or Speedo.

  6. 33 3 Star Rating: Average The Waverly Inn and Garden
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    16 Bank St, New York, NY 10014 (map)

    If you're not chummy enough with owner Graydon Carter to possess the secret number to this uber-hot West Village eatery, you'll have to show up in person three days in advance to try to get a reservation. But if you succeed, you're pretty much guaranteed to spot a power player or two.

For Gays and Lesbians

  1. 34 2.5 Star Rating: Below Average Gyms Sports Bar
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    167 8th Ave, New York, NY 10011 (map)

    Sure, lots of gay bars double as singles bars, but this Chelsea spot proves that a proper gay singles bar can also be a solid sports bar. Multiple flat-screen TVs and regular drink specials encourage game-time boozing and mingling.

  2. 35 3.5 Star Rating: Average Viceroy Cafe
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    160 8th Avenue, New York, NY 10011 (map)

    Gay singles flock to this Chelsea spot during happy hour (4pm-7pm) for discounted deals on booze, which inevitably (and thankfully) leads to heavy drinking and the loss of inhibition. But if you're on the prowl, stick to the bar's front area; the more formal space in back is usually dominated by couples.

  3. 36 3.5 Star Rating: Average Cattyshack
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    249 4th Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11215 (map)

    This bi-level Brooklyn lounge is quite popular with ladies in search of, well, other ladies. The go-go pole on the dance floor is a main attraction, but the outdoor area upstairs is also popular, with seasonal Sunday barbecues that provide a tamer meet-and-greet opportunity.

  4. 37 3 Star Rating: Average Splash
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    50 W 17th St, New York, NY 10011 (map)

    Lechery is always welcome at this Chelsea club--by both the guests and shirtless bartenders alike. Two-for-one drinks during daily happy hour (4pm-9pm) serve as the perfect social lubricant, but these strapping lads hardly need the liquid courage.

  5. 38 5 Star Rating: Highly Recommended Sugarland
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    221 N 9th St, Brooklyn, NY 11211 (map)

    The outdoor smoking deck sets the scene for heavy flirting at this gay bar in Williamsburg. Inside, moody strains of disco and house tunes lure fashion types to show off their hemlines, while tattooed bar boys in hot pants down drinks.

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